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Amendment 1

by Jay on April 23, 2012

Vote “NO”

I’ve been debating with myself whether expressing my opinion on Amendment 1, the proposed amendment to the North Carolina Constitution that would define marriage as a union between one man and one women is a good idea on a real estate website.  I’ve concluded that it is, simply because it affects the livability of our community which traditionally has been accepting and tolerant.  But beyond that it is really an attempt to impose a religious ideal.   The standard complaint is that it is forcing us to accept as normal a lifestyle that is not normal and, worse, forbidden by the Bible, citing an obscure Old Testament chapter that forbids all sorts of things that are almost totally ignored by the people supporting the amendment.  Leviticus, if honored, would be the Christian version of Islamic Sharia law.  If “normal” is our standard for non-discrimination it opens up a lot of opportunity for zealots to suppress the rights of others.

I’ve known enough gay people during my life that I understand that their attraction to the same sex is, by and large,  not a choice.  But suppose it was? Should that really make a difference? Many gay people live in stable, monogamous relationships that often put their heterosexual neighbors to shame.  There is no evidence that they are less effective parents, have more criminal tendencies or are less patriotic or contribute less to society than anyone else.

It is embarrassing that the legislature elected by this state is wasting time and energy to push this amendment when North Carolina has worked so hard to attract industries and jobs that pay well and require intellect and tolerance of differences…different races, different cultures and different sexual orientations. If people are doing no harm, they should not be systematically deprived of rights the rest of us enjoy  just to protect somebody else’s religious standard of “normal.”

Judging by the prevalence of yard signs like the one pictured, Durham will be solidly against the amendment. But Durham and Chapel Hill don’t always reflect the same values that are prevalent in other areas of the state. Therefore I urge everyone who can vote go to the polls on May 8 and vote AGAINST Amendment 1 and send a message that at least this corner of the state is tolerant and inclusive.


Why Customer Service Sucks

January 10, 2012
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Back in the good old days before the savings and loan crisis and our recent financial difficulties,  I was gainfully employed in the banking industry just when deregulation was picking up steam and banks were freer to introduce new products.  For a time I worked as the retail deposit services product manager in Winston-Salem at […]

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A Toilet is a Toilet…Right?

September 15, 2011
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“Squander” is a concept for retrospection. Few people realize they are doing it when they are. When buffalo were taken to the brink of extinction few buffalo hunters imagined they were even making a dent in the vast herds that roamed the plains. Then all of a sudden they were nearly gone. Evidence is gathering […]

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Crime in The Bull City

September 6, 2011
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Homer’s take on Crime in Durham I usually run into Homer in Home Depot where he has had a part time job for several years now. But this time I saw him in the buffet line at the Hope Valley Country Club where the monthly luncheon meeting of the Durham Regional Association of Realtors was […]

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Football – Another reason to love the Triangle

September 5, 2011
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The Independent Weekly’s August 31 issue tackles the question of “can college pigskin survive.” I kind of expected a whiny diatribe about academic integrity and the imminent fall of western civilization but it was actually pretty balanced with different articles showing different sides of the question. I do have a little bit of personal perspective […]

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National Night Out

August 17, 2011
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I’ve been in this quiet little neighborhood near where Hope Valley Road and University Drive intersect for 10 or 11 years now. There has been very little crime here other than change being taken from cars and a few break-ins when nobody was at home.  But a few years ago a neighbor walked into her […]

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Carbon/Silicon – The News

August 1, 2011

Here’s a feel good anthem to cheer you up after the dreary debt ceiling debate. Thanks to Brian Clark who posted this on Google + . Speaking of Google +, I’m experimenting with it. Like what I see so far especially the “circle” thing.   Here’s the other video from the Full Frame Summer Camp […]

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Full Frame Doc Camp

July 27, 2011
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One Monday in July of last year, I took the opportunity as I often do to write up a little summary of the weekly program of the Durham Rotary Club for the Club’s bulletin. That particular Monday the write-up was about a program delivered by Deirdre Haj, the recently named Executive Director of the Full […]

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Our Urban Orchard

June 10, 2011
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This listing is special. If you are an organic gardener, know one or have aspirations to eat healthier and reduce your carbon footprint, check out the video tour below and learn more at 1114 Woodburn Road

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