Durham, Don’t Break My Heart

Breaking Heart Valentine

by Jay on February 14, 2011

An Editorial to Remember

Apparently I’m not the only one that has noticed that proofreading of the hometown Herald-Sun has slipped recently but they made up for it in my book this morning with a lead editorial on Valentine’s Day entitled “A Valentine in 495 Words” that was almost lyrical in it’s description of loving Durham. It may be the best piece of writing I’ve ever seen in the Herald-Sun.

A Universal Theme

It recalls a theme that I used not as artfully presenting awards at an annual meeting of Downtown Durham, Inc. in the early days of of that organization when the meeting could be held in a small room.  I kinda had love on my mind.  I was newly married and had proposed to my wife on a pleasant Durham evening at a sidewalk table of a popular Downtown restaurant at Five Points.  I was also a big fan of Steven Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People in which he advises a man contemplating divorce that love is a choice and that if he wanted to recover the love in his marriage he just had to decide to do it.  My point was that for Durham to come back it was going to take a few dedicated people to decide to love it.  I think most of the people who had made that decision were in that small room that day.

Love Can Fade

Now 15 or so years later, the love has spread, but here’s a cautionary note.  The restaurant at Five Points where I proposed to my true love is gone and so is she.  Until recently I have not been able to enjoy the blossoming restaurant scene in Downtown Durham. Although I wasn’t reduced to living on Ramen Noodles, real estate being what it is, I have not had many nights on the town in the last few years.

A couple of weeks ago with a commission check burning a hole in my pocket I ventured down to one of the trendy places Downtown.  I walked in the door and was totally ignored.  Not knowing the protocol, rather than be embarrassed by asking someone sitting at the bar I suggested another nearby place to my companion. The experience there was OK, nothing special, a C… or maybe a C+ because of the funky coolness of the place.  But to be perfectly honest, the drinks, the food, the prices and the service are all much better at the Cheesecake Factory at the mall.

I hope my experience was an aberration. I really, really want our town and especially the Downtown to be something we continue to celebrate for many many years. But if we take it for granted it could easily slip away.

We should all enjoy the euphoria of  our town being on numerous lists of great things and the giddiness of new love but lets keep in mind that maintaining a satisfying relationship with a spouse, companion or a community takes work…satisfying work if done well, but work none the less.

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Aaron M. September 2, 2011 at 10:09 am

Hi there-

I liked this post and totally agree. Those of us whole love Durham can’t let it become some kind of snooty gentrified place.



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